01 Oct 10 Tips for Anger Management
The biggest enemy of every human is undoubtedly anger or wrath. When one loses control on self and succumbs to rage, it can result into anything like murder, accidents, suicide, rape, verbal abuse, physical torture, splitting relations, loss of job. Anger is a definite part of human psychology, and it’s normal but we can’t allow it to be our master and take a toll on our lives. We should know the techniques to curb anger before it damages our lives lethally.
Take help of anger management programs
Such programs look into anger related problems, find out the reasons behind anger, help people to get a control over their anger and become a calm person. The moderator or facilitator is always an experienced person, who will take you through the course and help in finding a newer ‘you’. Such programs are many in number and highly customized. You will be recommended the program which suits you the best.
Group discussion
Since some people display extreme severity of anger they require additional support like group therapy. Many people find it comfortable as they get to share their problems in front of many who are suffering the same. This process is very healthy and shows immediate result, as people can openly measure their problems, accept them, comprehend them and also realize various ways of dealing with them. Discussion is the key for such therapy. People liking this process are generally extroverts, outspoken and social.
Personal counseling
Contrary to the people mentioned above, there are many people who do not like to open up in public and prefer a one-to-one personal counseling. If you are one of them make sure you are guided by a veteran and renowned counselor who will help you to channelize your anger in the right way. Set yourself loose in front of the counselor.
Self-analysis
Nothing can be better than self help. When you are angry, go to a corner, be alone and ask yourself why you are angry, why you are reacting with anger and if it is worth. Such self-analysis always helps, eases the tension and helps you to control yourself.
Develop Emotional Intelligence (EQ)
Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is all about understanding and dealing with emotions. A person with high EQ effectively manages stress, conflict, and difficult moments. They can evaluate an emotion and also change them into positive ways.
Relax, meditate
Anger is often seen as an outcome of stress, frustration, disgust and sleeplessness. Such causes can be easily handled with meditation, relaxation, enough of sleep and practice of hobby. Find some time for yourself, get into sports, practice your hobby. Start your day with meditation. Breathe deep.
Deal with your anger today and sustain a good life.
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25 Sep 10 How to Boost your Self-Esteem?
It’s not uncommon that many people constantly suffer from low self-esteem. At times people feel inferior and suffer from sheer depression because they don’t have much wealth, good clothes, sense of fashion or etiquette, good pronunciation etc. But they don’t realize the worth of being a good human. A good self-esteem, an ideal self is actually within you, may be dormant. You need to awaken it, stir it, and make life worth living.
Here are some tips.
Talk to yourself in front of the mirror
Self help is the best help. Try to talk to yourself. In our subconscious mind we do analyze ourselves, converse with self. Talk to yourself in front of the mirror. Treat yourself respectfully. Realize self worth, self weaknesses. Praise yourself, ridicule yourself. Preach yourself, scare yourself. Treat yourself as your best friend. Talk good things in front of the mirror. Say it loud enough to believe in it.
Analyze your strengths and use them
Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Try to realize them and admit too. Admitting own weaknesses makes it easier to improve them. What’s more important is finding out own strengths and making them so strong that weaknesses appear negligible and small. Make the sunshine look so radiant, that people ignore the darkness following.
Follow others whom you admire
There’s no harm in following footsteps of the people, you admire. It’s those qualities which make him appreciated, admired. So why not follow them? Jot down the qualities you admire. Next, set your goal and action path. Set small goals, which can be measured. As you start working towards them and reaching small goals, your self confidence will boost up automatically.
Don’t compare yourself with others
Don’t compare yourself with others. Every human is different. There may be people who are better looking, better skilled or better paid. But don’t compare, it’s self defeating act. You may have many talents which others won’t possess. Be yourself, love yourself.
Recall your success
When you really feel low just recall your success, the moments when all flattered you to the core. Store those precious moments in your heart and cherish. It will hike your self esteem. If your share of failures has been more than success, just know that there’s always light at the end of the tunnel. Do the good deed, success will follow.
Make sure you are surrounded by optimists
Avoid people who spread negativity. If you are surrounded by such people their pessimism, cynical attitude will also get absorbed into you. Choose positive, helpful, fun-loving people. Positive energy will find space within you too.
Now, feel the change in your self esteem.
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04 Apr 10 Why So Many Freelance Writers Fail?
Many people start their freelance writing career with all gusto, but soon more than 97 percent of them are out of business. Why? What some of them succeed and rest does not? In this blog post, I will attempt to answer that.
Freelance writing is not easy
It indeed is not tough, but it is not easy. To succeed in this, you will have to put in hours and hours of labor every single day, without failing. Then only you will see any result. This is not a field in which you will enter, rake in moola, and leave. This is not a get-rich-quick industry. You have to struggle here, burn midnight oil, and learn continuously. People who fail in this industry, come here with a make-money-quick scheme, and get frustrated when faced with the reality. Writing is not easy, but it will become easier, eventually.
Lack of perseverance
You have to invest so many hours before you get hang of things around here. When you are new, the well may look dark, and the road may look narrower, but there is a wide clearing on the other side that awaits only those who persist. Persistence is the key. Keep fighting. Say this to yourself:
If any one person can do this then be that ME!
Lack of determination is the thing that pushes people away from this writing.
No devotion to learning
If you thought learning stopped the day you got the job, or the day you got the gig then you are in the wrong field. Rather, there is no such field out there in which you will not require to read. Learning is not an event, it is a process which never stops. People who fail are those who do not want to invest time for learning.
I do not believe it is the lack of talent which creates hindrance in the road to the high hills of success. It is the attitude that stops us from that.
If you want to have faith in one thing, have faith on your selection. This will solve half of the problems.
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