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How to Overcome Fear of Success?

bikram — Sun, 05 Dec 2010 14:43:27 +0000

Many of us suffer from the fear of success. It’s a realistic problem with many of us which needs to be checked, yet it’s not that grave matter which seeks psycho-analyst’s guidance. Just addressing the problem and following few tips can solve this problem. Here are some tips for your help.

Get to the root

Remember, it’s all in your mind and your mind controls all your actions and thoughts. So, if you can control your mind, all will fall in place. Do soul searching. Ask yourself if you are scared of rejection. Do you dare to take risk? Remember, risk taking attitude is a must for an entrepreneur and an entrepreneur with right set of attitude and talent draws success. Do you wish to be different from others always? Do you fear popularity? Get to know yourself, what you want and at the cost of what? What’s your dream? How far can you go to achieve your dreams? Find out what makes you scared of success and avoid it? Don’t be harsh to yourself; just find out what scares you.

Prepare yourself

Prepare yourself, right now. Don’t blame your destiny if you are not welcomed by opportunities. Opportunities only reach people who are prepared. If you are prepared, you will be awaiting success, not fearing it anymore. Just get into the mode of giving your 100%, success will follow automatically. If you make the first effort, second effort will be easier. Also stay consistent. Failure shouldn’t stop you. Keep on giving your best every time. Success can be late, but not impossible to attain. Practice will make your perfect too. And it will also boost your self-confidence and sharpen your skills. So don’t fear practice and preparation session, it’s a stepping stone towards future.

Do it now

Talking doesn’t help. It may boost your confidence and keep you motivated. But it’s doing that makes the difference in reality. So get started, right now. Dream will remain dream only if you don’t work towards achieving it. Don’t fear mistakes. Just start. Know what it takes to achieve your target and success.

Life may not give you a second chance. So go for it, give your best. Cherish success. Don’t let the fear of success control your life. Crumble it into pieces for once and forever. Just a fear can’t take away your share of success. Face it.

How to Become a Strong Woman?

bikram — Mon, 27 Sep 2010 17:09:10 +0000

World has always remained male dominated and male driven. Where power comes naturally to men, women have to acquire it, fight for it, and become really strong to find a space for herself in this world. A strong woman is the one who believes in herself, stays independent, respects herself, and takes decisions herself. She lives life, doesn’t survive merely. Many of us wish to be like that, but don’t know how. Here are some guidelines to get you into the shoes of a strong woman.

Know yourself

Take out time for yourself. Sit alone and analyze yourself. Try to know your ‘true’ self, who you are in real inside a human body. Try to explore your spiritual being. It will not only make your vision clear but will also lend you a good understanding of life. Spiritual understanding will help you to understand the deepest truths, explore true knowledge, and fetch ultimate wisdom. This will make you wiser, immaterialist, and omnipotent. Meditate, read books on spirituality, visit relevant sites on Internet. You should know what you want in life. Fix your goal and work towards it.

Love and depend on yourself

Love yourself, as it’s you who will be with your shadow forever. People may give you shoulder to lean upon, but no one is eternal. At the end of the day, it’s you, all alone. Be self-reliant. That’s emotional maturity. The day you stop depending on others, expecting from others you are a strong individual. Take care of yourself. Do everything yourself and fulfill emotional needs too. Meditate and pray often.

Be financially independent

Independence starts with financial freedom. Earn for yourself. Pay your bills, rent, food, household finances, shopping. Maintain own bank account. It not only makes one independent, but also increases self-confidence and courage. Financial dependence on others makes us weak, indebted and parasite. A strong woman is the one who’s capable of looking after herself. Find job or do something which you are good at and capable of doing. If money earning asks for some specific education or skill, go and learn that. There’s no end to learning.

Be honest to yourself

You may lie to the whole world. But don’t lie to yourself. Admit your weaknesses. Accept yourself the way you are. You may admire someone and get motivated, but don’t try to be a copied version. It will make you frustrated. You may have potential which no one else has. Realize that.

Follow your heart

A strong woman takes independent decisions, follows her own heart. Do what makes you happy. Entire world may reject your choice, but if you believe in it follow it. Don’t forget, it’s your life, you should live it the way you wish to. You are supposed to be happy. It’s not being selfish.

Go, the world is all yours. Walk with your chin up.

How to Boost your Self-Esteem?

bikram — Sat, 25 Sep 2010 13:29:17 +0000

It’s not uncommon that many people constantly suffer from low self-esteem. At times people feel inferior and suffer from sheer depression because they don’t have much wealth, good clothes, sense of fashion or etiquette, good pronunciation etc. But they don’t realize the worth of being a good human. A good self-esteem, an ideal self is actually within you, may be dormant. You need to awaken it, stir it, and make life worth living.

Here are some tips.

Talk to yourself in front of the mirror

Self help is the best help. Try to talk to yourself. In our subconscious mind we do analyze ourselves, converse with self. Talk to yourself in front of the mirror. Treat yourself respectfully. Realize self worth, self weaknesses. Praise yourself, ridicule yourself. Preach yourself, scare yourself. Treat yourself as your best friend. Talk good things in front of the mirror. Say it loud enough to believe in it.

Analyze your strengths and use them

Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Try to realize them and admit too. Admitting own weaknesses makes it easier to improve them. What’s more important is finding out own strengths and making them so strong that weaknesses appear negligible and small. Make the sunshine look so radiant, that people ignore the darkness following.

Follow others whom you admire

There’s no harm in following footsteps of the people, you admire. It’s those qualities which make him appreciated, admired. So why not follow them? Jot down the qualities you admire. Next, set your goal and action path. Set small goals, which can be measured. As you start working towards them and reaching small goals, your self confidence will boost up automatically.

Don’t compare yourself with others

Don’t compare yourself with others. Every human is different. There may be people who are better looking, better skilled or better paid. But don’t compare, it’s self defeating act. You may have many talents which others won’t possess. Be yourself, love yourself.

Recall your success

When you really feel low just recall your success, the moments when all flattered you to the core. Store those precious moments in your heart and cherish. It will hike your self esteem. If your share of failures has been more than success, just know that there’s always light at the end of the tunnel. Do the good deed, success will follow.

Make sure you are surrounded by optimists

Avoid people who spread negativity. If you are surrounded by such people their pessimism, cynical attitude will also get absorbed into you. Choose positive, helpful, fun-loving people. Positive energy will find space within you too.

Now, feel the change in your self esteem.

What should be your Body Language at the Interview Table?

bikram — Thu, 20 May 2010 03:08:11 +0000

Your résumé is flawless, your academic record and experience have been good throughout, and you are just perfect for the job. Still every time you are rejected. Have you ever wondered what goes wrong at the interview table? It may be your body language, the non-verbal communication. Even brilliant knowledge is often marred by poor body language; as non-verbal communication accounts for 90% of the message that you send during interview.

If you are not confident enough about your body language take help of the following tips.

Before entering the room, take a look of yourself. Make sure your hands are dry, warm. Shake hands firmly, yet don’t overpower. Sit straight, yet comfortable. Erect posture reflects energy, enthusiasm, and self control. Don’t move quite often. Make yourself feel comfortable. Slouching posture doesn’t reflect a positive attitude. Sitting on edge of the chair is to be avoided, as it reflects nervousness and lack of self-confidence.

Make good eye contact, but avoid staring. Do not let your eyes wander. While answering questions look into the interviewer’s eyes. Even while listening to the interviewer maintain direct eye contact. It makes you appear confident, attentive and pleasant. Avoid aggressive stares, blinking often, wandering eye movements, staring below. Over eye contact can again make you appear bossy, challenging and seductive.

Control your hands by being aware of what you are doing with them. Set them free, loosely clasped in your lap or on the table. Keep hands off your face. Avoid folding hands near chest, it shows defensive attitude and mind blocks. Too much hands movement is distracting. Less of movement makes you look in control, confident and disciplined. Avoid putting hands in pocket.

Place your feet firmly on the ground and avoid fidgeting. Crossing legs are okay, but shouldn’t invite too frequent crossing and re-crossings. Crossing legs at ankles appear smart and professional. Leg movements are distracting. Point knees towards the interviewer.

Speak in a clear, controlled, well-modulated voice. Avoid monotone and same pitch. Breathe properly in-between. Tone should be professional and confident. Don’t let your personal emotions reflect in your voice or words. Smile and nod, but not too loud or often.